Monday, 13 April 2009
Open Call for Judgement About Auntiness
Thank you all for the birthday wishes and suggestions for Dior lippies. I'll get back to regular broadcast tomorrow. Meanwhile, I'd like to ask you for your objective help with a "problem" I'm trying to confront ... I spent the day pondering, "What makes me an aunty?" I sorted my clothes, tried to critically examine them, my body, hair and posture etc. to figure out why some older women, in their 40s and 50s bother to come up to me and tell me I look aunty or dress aunty. "Aunty" in our local terms means something like an obasan or ajuma. I am quite sure I do not totally look like an aunty nor are all my clothes aunty. Yet I do not know for sure, which part of me, is making these certified aunties/obasan/ajuma themselves come forward to tell me I look aunty. For example, a forty/fifty-something woman, who draws her eyeliner up at her eyelids and wears colourful clothes came forward to compliment me on my what she called "rugged, casual dressing", which to her was "so youthful." I was wearing a blue cardigan over a blue tank top and jeans. In the next breath, she told me I "should wear such things more often", and "not always be so aunty". I was flabbergasted. First, I was dressed that way only because the big bosses, ie. the CE, all the Directors and etc. were away at a retreat and it was casual Friday. I am working in the staffing office for the CE, and I couldn't possibly wear that outfit of jeans and tank tops daily, to staff his meetings and make presentations etc. At one point, I thought I am not frumpy or aunty ... but then I started doubting myself again. I admit, I don't like to bare skin (no tank tops-only and no miniskirts for me) and I don't want to wear colourful rainbow clothes. I also don't want to look like a middle-aged woman trying to recapture her youth in teenie-booper clothing or trendy stuff. I tend to wear dark clothes because I prefer them and I tend to go for quality rather than trends. On weekends, I wear jeans, mary-janes and simple tops. It's a tropical country ... we should dress down when in the heat ... I wear makeup but most people don't notice I'm wearing it, maybe I'm wearing it too light? I tend to think I am I wearing it natural not in-your-face colourful clown-like. So, people who know me in real-life. I am pondering a real question here and am open to hearing objective, constructive criticisms. Is it my clothes? Is it my age? My hair? My shoes? My body shape? What is it that I'm doing that makes me aunty? I don't think it's everything, but there must be something I'm doing wrong. I can't figure it out myself. So, I'm posting some stuff for peeps who don't know me in real life as well, to show you my personal preferences and I'm open to hearing your views. Here are some dresses I like to wear to work with my pumps. I post some of my pumps too (I mostly wear shoes like this). I also like to wear pants with plain tops to work with a cardigan to keep out the chilly aircon. I wear dresses because I find with a good cut, they hide a multitude of my body flaws - having given birth to a child, loving my food and not exercising, I am not slim at all. I also post a photo of what I decided is me in a frumpy skirt and outfit ... So you can give me some criticisms about my body shape. I am going to throw this skirt away! Ok, so I wait to hear your views. I'm really feeling puzzled and cracking my head about how aunty I am ... I need constructive views, on what you feel is the aunty part about me. So I can take some action and make some changes ... I brace myself ... Thanks!! © Copyright. All rights reserved.